Think Win-Win

Consider other people’s wins as well as your own!

Being a leader isn’t some grandiose episode in life. Leadership is doing the next right thing in the moments of life. Many moments of our day can be understood as opportunities for win-win. An abundance mentality improves self-worth and promotes positive relationships.

Win-win means that I …

  • value your needs and desires equally to my own.
  • seek mutual benefit.
  • cooperate rather than compete.
  • use courage and compassion when communicating.

Common (Incorrect) Paradigm

There is only so much, and the more you get, the less there is for me.

Highly Effective Paradigm

There is plenty out there for everyone and more to spare.

Highly Effective Practice

Celebrate other’s wins as well as your own!

At Home:

  • Do chores together.
  • Review the weekly calendar to find time for each person to do things they wish to.
  • Sit knee to knee to discuss challenging situations. 
  • Practice seeking first to understand, then to be understood.
  • Create an affirmation poster to celebrate victories for each member of the family. 

In the Classroom:

  • With student input, review the activity(ies) of the day/week. 
  • Remind students about making deposits in the Relationship Bank Account we have with each other.
  • Start by having a volunteer offer one thing another student did well during the activity/day/week. (Be sure to point out that each student may only receive one compliment.) 
  • Then, the recently complimented student will offer one thing someone else did well during the week.
  • Continue until everyone has given and received one compliment. 
  • Students may answer this prompt in their journals: If you have a relationship that needs improvement, what deposits will you make in the Relationship Bank Account?

What Gets Fed, Flourishes

What we feed grows and becomes something powerful. Putting our values and priorities first in our lives lets us live the life we wish for. I have been told that when I feel too busy that I am probably busy on things I shouldn’t be busy with. When we are focused on priorities in our heart, mind, body, and soul we tend to feel very satisfied with how we are spending our time and experience greater joy in life. Balancing life really means that we stop juggling our life. People who are good at saying no to quadrants three and four do a great job filling their time in quadrant two and are able to handle quadrant one episodes.

In last week’s habit, we talked about beginning with the end in mind. When we plan our week to the best of our knowledge, we tend to be at peace when saying no to opportunities that interrupt our plans. This is exactly what the word discipline means: to learn and habituate behaviors. Using a planning tool clarifies and maps how we want to spend our time. It gives us a pathway that leads to a healthier lifestyle: heart, mind, body, and soul.

Take time this week to review each area of your child’s life–heart, mind, body, and soul–and ask if there is enough time and effort placed on the things throughout the week.
Heart – relationships
Mind – academic success
Body – sleep, diet, & exercise/play
Soul – music & spiritual/personal development
Key Concepts from the “Leader in Me” Curriculum
Focus on your highest Priorities (Quadrant 2)Eliminate the unimportant (Quadrant 3 & 4)Plan your week.Stay true to your big rocks.
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Inventiveness: Begin With the End in Mind

Inventiveness is born in an environment that allows a mind to explore, experiment, dabble, play, risk, and fail. Playdough, legos, or lincoln logs aren’t just toys to pass the time. They provide a tool for the imagination and the development of essential critical thinking and reasoning skills for our future inventors, entrepreneurs, and engineers. Studying every subject in the curriculum encourages inventive thinking when the subject is treated with wonder and awe.
It is our role as parents and educators to present it that way. According to Tony Wagner, in his book Creating Innovators, there are three super “p’s” that are ingredients to creating our next generation of great American innovators – Play, Passion, and Purpose. When we allow our children to; use playful imagination, discover their personal passion, and provide purpose in creative endeavors – we fertilize the next generation of innovators. Innovation can be found within each of our heart, mind, body, or soul passions. Whether we are writing a poem, calculating in a spreadsheet, experimenting with a 3d printer, or beating on a drum, innovative thinking produces the wonders and awes of life. Let’s reinvigorate our enthusiasm this week by saying “yes” to the inventive ideas of our children and never robbing them from eureka moments! Allow eureka to spark within the minds of our children!
“It does seem to produce more creative results when there are limitations. It’s like in wartime with rations – people became more inventive with cooking.” – Laura Fraser
“Imagination is the highest kite one can fly.” – Lauren Bacall
“You can’t depend on your eyes when your imagination is out of focus.” – Mark Twain
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