Do you like green eggs and ham?
I do not like them, Sam-I-am. I do not like green eggs and ham!
Would you like them here or there?
I would not like them here or there. I would not like them anywhere…
I do so like green eggs and ham! Thank you! Thank you! Sam-I-am 🙂
If Sam-I-am can get someone to eat green eggs and ham, what can we do with a bit of persistence? Persistence is one of our three power P’s: Patience, Persistence, and Positivity! Rome wasn’t built in a day, nor is a child. Anything worth greatness is worth fighting for. Whether it’s our children, our school, or our country, persistent hope and faith in the value of our time and energy toward these things will pay off. It takes three to twenty attempts to learn something. Well, we are blessed with the daily company of our children for at least 18 years. It’s not an option for us to stop parenting. We get this time to persistently and lovingly teach them the truth about life and learning. We are it! We are the people who love them more than any other and have chosen to be their greatest advocate in their journey to learn and lead. When frustrations are high and you aren’t sure what to do next, consider using your paus-itivity button and encourage your persistence. You will never regret using another ounce of love.
In exasperation, we might tell our children, “How many times do I need to tell you…”. In fact we do need to tell, teach, and train our children many times. Persistence has seven times more influence on success than intelligence. Neuropathways don’t become pathways in one or two tries–just like a path through the woods doesn’t get forged after a couple of passes. Additionally, using alternative strategies to solve problems activates other lobes of the brain and generates creativity. We are challenged to practice patient persistence. It is never an option to give up on our parenting. It just requires that we pause, reflect on our strategies, stop doing what doesn’t work, and persist with the same message, but maybe a new strategy.
“Every strike brings me closer to the next home run.” – Babe Ruth
“Little by little, one travels far.” – J. R. R. Tolkin
“Be like a postage stamp, stick to something until you get there!” – Josh Billings
Persistent Parenting Links
Is leadership itself a habit or is it the accumulation of other strong habits? When we practice positive and productive intellectual and personal habits of mind, we grow the fruits of a healthy well being. I strongly believe that every child has leadership capacity in his/her own right. The unique gifts and talents brewing within can lead an industry, a sport, a mission, and a household. To educate or parent, is to draw out those qualities and watch a child lead in his/her family, school, and community. When we discover our purpose and develop the skills and confidence to be really good at that purpose, we lead. Our nurturing and encouragement supports this quest and is alive in every child.
The primary habits that make up leadership include two sets that we promote at AACA (TRRFC & 7 Habits of Highly Effective People). Speak, write, and practice these with your children and we will watch them grow into great kids and leaders!
TeRRiFC citizens are Trustworthy – Respectful – Responsible – Fair – Caring people who practice the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People:
- Be Proactive
- Begin with the End in Mind
- Put First things First
- Think Win Win
- Sharpen the Saw: Heart, Mind, Body, & Soul
“You can do what I cannot do. I can do what you cannot do. Together we can do great things.”- Mother Teresa
What a great habit to practice as we celebrate George Washington’s birthday and Valentine’s Day. These were men who dedicated their lives to community and family. Commitment to the highest virtues and values in life eliminates lesser, sometimes unworthy, desires. The most important things in our lives are those that we’ve made commitments to: family, friends, ideas, the place we live, careers, and hobbies. One of the best things about making a commitment is that it provides direction in a world that confuses us with a multitude of choices. Saying no to the multitude and yes to the valuable creates peace of mind, clear direction, and fosters success. Floundering about without commitments is a confusing and confounding way to live. Practicing commitment in childhood years leads children to healthier and more successful lives sooner than later.
Com·mit·ment: kəˈmitmənt/ noun: the state or quality of being dedicated to a cause, activity, etc.
synonyms: dedication, devotion, allegiance, loyalty, faithfulness, fidelity
Practicing the Habit of the Week
- Heart – play with a sibling instead of a friend.
- Mind – choose a good book instead of a video game.
- Body – eat a healthier snack at recess or lunch.
- Soul – practice a faith commitment.
“The only limit to your impact is your imagination and commitment.” -Tony Robbins
“Commitment is what transforms a promise into reality.” – Unknown
Helpful Learning Links
Patience is the first of the 3 P’s to parenting: Patience, Persistence, and Positivity. These are the three key ingredients to growing great kids. It begins with patience because it’s patience that allows our brains slow down, gather our wits, and think with wisdom and creativity. When we realize that raising a child is a long term task and that they absolutely need our guidance, it might help to slow us down a bit and take the time needed to do it right. There’s no need to rush something that we want to last forever.
Keys to Patience
Give children many opportunities to practice patience. It takes 3-20 times to learn something and 30 – 60 times to fix something learned wrong. Let your children know that if they can’t take a “no” as well as they take a “yes”, then we need to practice “no” more often.Your children are intelligent human beings – treat them that way. Expect that they can learn and anything less doesn’t give them the dignity that they deserve. They can control their behavior when we expect them to.Slow down your response time. Put a pause on your response. When our children want our attention, help them to learn that non-emergencies can wait when we are in the middle of something else. I used to tell my children and students who wanted my immediate attention that I wasn’t ignoring them, I was paying attention to someone else.
Patience is our ability and willingness to suppress our reactive desires in order to produce a more positive result. It means to take that extra few seconds to listen with understanding and empathy and reach into our frontal lobes and allow wisdom to speak clearly. When we say “no” to the multitude of requests from our children, what we are really saying is “yes” to something more important. We are saying “yes” to their health when we say “no” to another piece of candy. We are saying “yes” to the wonder and awe of their minds when we say “no” to screen time. We are saying “yes” to greater happiness in the future when we say “no” to a moment of pleasure. Patience is the realization that waiting for a big “YES” is better than being irritated by a little “no”.
“Patience is a form of action.” – Auguste Rodin
“Patience may be bitter, but its fruits are sweet.” – Jean-Jacques Rousseau